Times have definitely changed! Now, we live in a world where it’s socially acceptable to put yourself before others. Influenced by what we see on TV, Facebook or Instagram – it’s hard to get away from the “Me First” attitude. It’s everywhere!
But as Christians, we are anointed by God to be set apart from the world. We have the opportunity to say “No, this is not the way I’m going to live” and choose a different path. Because when to live is Christ, that life is lived for others. Jesus said the mark of true Christians is love for one another.
Many people believe you need to “find” yourself and be happy before you can experience true fulfillment. However, focussing on ourselves can easily distract us from pursuing the only source of true fulfillment.
As God’s beloved people do we need to love ourselves more? Or is there a more purposeful, biblical path that can lead us to joy that isn’t fleeting, but everlasting?
The best way to have a “you first” mentality is to face the “me first” mentality straight on. Humble yourself before God and be honest with yourself. Are there areas where you’ve put yourself before others? Did you hurt people along the way? Ask God to show you where your character has let Him down and ask for forgiveness.
Jesus did not talk the same, dress the same or act the same as the rest of the world. The world runs on envy and selfish ambition – trying to get further in life than those around. Thinking, “if I just had that car or house, I’d be more successful”. This mentality makes it “me vs. them or me better than them”. But it’s pointless because “even if you win the rat race, you’re still a rat”.
Jesus calls us to unite together for the glory of God. (Philippians 2:1-2) Genuine humility is thinking about other people as more important than yourself. In Philippians 2:3 it says “Rather, in humility value others above yourselves”. We are called to serve God and serve people. Because Jesus died for us, we have every reason to live for others. The One who created everything made himself nothing – for you.
“True humility is not thinking less of yourself, it is thinking of yourself less.” – C.S. Lewis
Start right where you are. Mother Teresa says “Never worry about the numbers. Help one person at a time, and always start with the person nearest to you.” Changing culture starts with you, whatever area God has placed you in, and whatever resources He’s given you. Don’t be overwhelmed by the idea that you have to impact every single person in the world. No – just start with the person closest to you. God will give you the humility and perseverance to continue to put others first.
Church. Work. Career. School. Marriage. Family. Children. Friends. Relatives. Try having a you-first mentality in every area of life. Do something kind and thoughtful for someone else. You can write a card, help a fellow co-worker with their work, plan a special dinner for your spouse. God will surprise and amaze you as you value others before yourself.
Don’t conform to the ways of this world. Even if you’re surrounded by selfies and the latest trends and gadgets. This life is not about being the most successful or having everything and being happy. It’s much more than that. It’s about loving God, building His Kingdom and serving others. So, what is Christianity all about? Well, the same thing Christ is about. OTHERS.
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