Lies Christian Parents Believe
Getting caught up in the motions of life is an easy thing to do when you’ve got a family to look after. There are things you push aside, simply because there’s no time to handle the mindset or the situation. It’s in these small moments where we can begin to believe lies about Christian parenting. When we are caught off guard or too busy to pay attention, these lies can sneak in.
However, to be an effective leader for your children means clearing the air of your own misperceptions. Don’t be ashamed if you’ve believed any (or all) of these 3 lies. We all just want to be better parents and it’s important to stay in tune with God’s truth and push these lies aside!
Here are the 3 lies:
1. If we make a mistake, our kids will be messed up for life.
A lie that can make you feel guilt, regret and disappointment. Maybe you need to hear this loud and clear: NO PARENT IS PERFECT. There will be mistakes and it does not necessarily mean they will be doomed for their future.
We live in a fallen world where making mistakes is a daily occurrence. How you respond to making amends matters. This is the part you can control – respond humbly, honestly and respectfully. As a Christian parent, you can only do your best and let God do the rest.
2. If we take our children to Sunday School, that should be enough.
Yes, the church is an important part of your child’s faith community. Yes, Sunday school teachers and youth leaders are great teachers. But…the truth is this: You have the biggest influence on your child’s life. Not the youth pastor, YOU.
You are the one leading them to attend Sunday school. You are the one helping your children join different ministries and programs. You are the one they see living out the Christian faith every single day. You are planting the seed for your child’s spiritual life – it’s okay to take charge!
3. If we use the right method, we’ll get the right result.
This is a common lie that most parents would believe. Books, therapists, and people will tell you a method that can “fix” your child’s behaviour. Many people will have opinions and say this is the way to solve the situation. Maybe other methods can work with some kids, but not all.
One thing they forget – not one child is ever the same. Every single child is unique in their own way and that’s a good thing. You know your children best and you can tell them to do the right thing but they can still choose to do the wrong thing. You can only trust in God, pray for your children and leave it to God.
Parenting for Christ
As a parent, we have been given the beautiful privilege of training our children in the way they should go. If you believe any of these lies, you can often feel disappointed in yourself, guilty of “bad” parenting or unable to move forward.
You can STOP believing these lies today. You can remember the precious gift of grace God’s given to your children and to YOU. You can only do your best and leave the rest to God. He’s the best parent ever.
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