“Smart parents give their children a million answers. Wise parents ask their children a million questions. And so smart parents might know, but wise parents understand.”
Thoughtful questions allows for meaningful conversations. Thoughtful questions shows that you genuinely care and are interested in the other person’s life/well-being. Thoughtful questions helps you connect with your children on a deeper level.
The Brick Wall
Imagine a brick wall – for every meaningful question you ask, a brick falls. As you continue to ask these questions, you begin breaking down the wall. The more you ask, the more you understand, and the more you get to know your child’s values and beliefs.
Here are 27 questions to help unlock your child’s heart.
- What do you want to accomplish by your next birthday?
- What are you most afraid of?
- What do you love about yourself?
- Describe your perfect day.
- What sort of things make you smile?
- Do you want to change the world? If so, how?
- What do you think is the biggest challenge our world is facing today?
- If you could give a million people one word of advice, what would you say?
- Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
- What are you the most proud of?
- What is something you’ve always wanted to ask me?
- What are 3 most important qualities in a friend?
- If you could live in another country for a year, where would you go?
- If you could have 2 superpowers, what would they be?
- What is something you’re great at?
- What can’t you leave the house without?
- What’s your favourite quote? And why?
- Who makes you smile the most?
- What’s the best thing about living here?
- When is it hard being a friend?
- What’s your favourite Bible verse? And why?
- Who’s your role model? And why?
- If you could be famous for one thing, what would it be?
The Popsicle Stick Jar
Write these questions down on a popsicle stick and place them in a jar. Think about certain times when you can ask these questions. For example, during a walk along the jetty, during a family dinner or even a picnic. Carefully choose the environment because it’s important both you and your children feel comfortable enough to answer and get into a deep conversation.
Note: Ensure you give your full and undivided attention when asking these questions. Don’t try to multitask. Be an active listener and enjoy the answers from your children.
Build up your relationship with your children with simple yet meaningful questions. As you get to know them better, the more you can understand their perspective. It’s important to nourish these relationships now.
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